Book123

    Free register and download UseNet downloader, then you can FREE Download from UseNet.

    Download without Limit " Family & Home Honey, I Wrecked the Kids: When Yelling, Screaming, Threats, Bribes, Time-outs, Sticker Charts Don't Work " from UseNet for FREE!

More

Alyson Schafer, "Honey, I Wrecked the Kids: When Yelling, Screaming, Threats, Bribes, Time-outs, Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't Work"

More life-saving parenting advice from the bestselling author of Breaking the Good Mom Myth

Bringing the same perceptive and actionable advice that made Breaking the Good Mom Myth an international bestseller, TV host and psychotherapist Alyson Schafer again comes to the rescue of desperate parents everywhere. For those who've tried just about everything to discipline their kids, Honey, I Wrecked the Kids explains why children today really are resistant to traditional parenting methods and how only a new model for winning cooperation really works. Full of real-life examples, the book gives parents a deeper understanding of misbehavior and their role in it, shies away from traditional behavioral models of parenting, and offers humane, good-humored advice that will make parenting a manageable and, finally, rewarding task.

Alyson Schafer (Toronto, ON) is the host of The Parenting Show and a media expert on parenting. She has appeared on The Montel Williams Show and been featured in Cosmopolitan, Parenting, Reader's Digest, and more.

Summary: I love this book

Rating: 5

Taking a positive approach to parenting and encouraging my children (as opposed to a focus on punishing misbehavior) is really helping our family. The ideas in this book are what I've always intuitively believed and felt are correct ways to parent. Over the years, negativity and discouragement seeped in and listening to some sources that promote punitive measures didn't help. This book is helping us us to appreciate our children for who they are as they are and that's a much happier way of life! I keep this book on my nightstand and highly recommend it!

Summary: A must-have for any parent or anyone with works with kids

Rating: 5

Clear, logical, effective. Easy to read. Well laid out. No kidding. This is a book you'll go back to over and over again. I had no idea how freeing it would be to focus on the interactions in our family and step back from defining and understand my son (as a "spirited" kid etc etc) until I opened Alyson Schafer's book and read through the introduction.

I've got advanced degrees and have worked in education, including special education for years. And I've trained other teachers and professionals who work with kids with language development problems, including autistic and kids with severe behavior problems. I'm very familiar with all sorts of behavioral approaches, tokens, charts, reinforcement schedules, behavior plans, etc etc etc. But in my gut I've never been 100% comfortable with these approaches because I knew their effect is limited. They only deal with the surface. In fact, I don't use stickers or other sorts of reward systems or charts at home (although I tried them with potty training, to no avail when the novelty wore off). Real change in behavior goes much deeper. It really does come from within the individual. It's based on a sense of satisfaction that comes from warm, respectful relationships with others and a sense of pride and capability in oneself. Even when I used these reward systems at work, I knew what most kids were after was my approval and what they mostly wanted was time with me or another adult who was really interested in them. (Lunch at McDonalds was the prize kids most often wanted to earn.)

I bought this book about a week ago while looking for more ideas (NOT just general principles!) for working with my spirited, intense 3-year old son. I realized that I (and my husband) had already fallen into some power struggles with him. Nothing huge. But nothing I wanted to continue either. I was looking for real PRACTICAL how-to- advice beyond what I found in Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's excellent "Raising your Spirited Child" and all the recent books on raising boys like Michael Thompson's "It's A Boy: Your Son's Development from Birth to Age 18." And I've felt that labels like "difficult" and "strong-willed" also only go so far (even when these terms are turned around and understood--very helpfully and clearly-- in a positive light, e.g., as "spirited). Don't get me wrong. Kurcinka's work is invaluable, and so is Thompson's and all the other work on this topic of raising boys (and appreciating 'spirit'). Much needed information here! In fact, the work on gender and developmental differences, along with Kurcinka's approaches on temperament, should be be much, much more part of efforts to educate teachers as well as parents than it now is. So all of this work has helped, But NONE of these books have dealt in great detail with the family interactions as a whole. "Honey I wrecked the Kids" does!

Schafer's techniques are based on approaches to the family developed by Alfred Adler. One of the pleasant surprises of this approach is how non-judgmental, respectful, and logical it is toward everyone in your household. And how easy to use. (Although it does mean that you have to be honest with yourself about things like whether you really ARE following a routine consistently.) The other night my son did his "run away" from us business. Which he does when he does not want to do something (like get into bed, pick up his toys). So instead of doing"helping" him come back, or doing "hand-over-hand" approaches--pick the pillow back up off the floor!-- I just sat down next to him and said "Sweetie, you know its bedtime. We always go to bed now. Mommy or Daddy can pick you up or take you to bed. But I'd really like it if you got into bed by yourself. Can you help us?" It worked. And he stayed in bed. Look, I know this sounds cheesy to some people. And that some folks will think that such approaches mean parents are being "permissive" or not exercising the proper authority, setting limits, or falling into the trap of being a "friend instead of a parent" (concerns that Schafer effectively puts to rest in her introduction). But really, you lose nothing as parent here, except maybe all the energy you were using to label or define or understand the kid (which is a relief in its own left). And you, and your family, gain a whole lot. Like a sense of peace, order, and warmth. And fun. As far as I'm concerned, this is what discipline in its truest sense looks like.

Summary: No more yelling

Rating: 5

I read the book in 4 days two weeks ago, I haven't yelled at the kids since. I am more relaxed and so are the kids. They are already behaving better and more respectfuly. Best of all, they seem happier too. This book is funny and easy to read but the information is still presented thoroughly and logically. A must buy for any parent who wants an easier and more respectful approach to living with their kids.

Buy Book at Lowest Price on Amazon

Not all books on / appear on the homepage.

In order not to miss many of them follow Download Link (Ebooks section) (see top of each page on AH)

and visit too :)

Rating:
2.5 out of 5 by Book123